7 Ways To Thank a Caregiver | What Your Caretaker Really Wants From You
7 Ways To Thank a Caregiver | What Your Caretaker Really Wants From You – Years of helping my daughter get through her horrible battle with a chronic pain condition called CRPS/RSD has taught me a few things. First, I know longer take things for granted. I have learned to appreciate every smile around me to its fullest. Years of pain, suffering, and watching my daughter do nothing, but struggle everyday, has put me in a different mental state of mind then it was almost five years ago… Smiles and laughter are more precious than they ever once were.
Second, I no longer stress over things that are out of our control or quite frankly that are in my control. However, it is just not as important as is once was. I have learned to let the little things go that used to drive me crazy (dirty dishes in the sink). Why? Because having everything in order, clean, and having an organized daily agenda just does not happen when you are the main support and caregiver to someone suffering with a chronic painful condition.
So I sit here and ask myself, how could my daughter help me after the five years of helping her fight, stay strong, and live her life the way she deserves to live her life? After doing some soul-searching here is what is important to me and what I really want from her as her caretaker.
So if you are ever looking for ways to thank your caregiver here are some hints..
I know it’s hard Kenzie… your smiles are not what they use to be. However, you do have a beautiful smile. When I see your smile and hear your laughter you give me hope. So smile as much as you can and as often as you can.
When I see you walk out the door everyday, whether it is to go to work or hang out with a friend, it gives me hope. It means what I am doing is helping and maybe one day this will all be over. When you fight it makes me fight harder.
WHEN YOU FALL GET BACK UP!
Kenzie, during all these years you have lost friends, had to take a break from school, received bad doctor care, but every set back or slap in the face your disease caused, you did not ever fail. Every time you “fell” you got up and came back better and stronger. Again, this gives me strength and gives me the power to fight for you and I never want to give up on this journey with you.
NEVER LOSE YOUR FAITH
Whatever your faith was before this horrible monster took a hold of you, keep believing. Faith gives us hope. It is easy to reach out and blame God for what happened to you (I get it I blamed God for what happened to you too). However, if you do not have faith you lose hope. Faith gives us humanity, compassion, and the ability to stay strong. If you have turned away from your faith please try to find it again.
DON’T SHUT YOUR CAREGIVER OUT
I understand you need your space and I respect that. But when are noticeably sad and I ask you what’s wrong, talk to me. I am here to help you and I don’t want you going through this alone.
Talk to your caregiver, don’t keep everything inside.
Kenzie, I know there are times when you think I am mean and I don’t care, but I do. I know I push you and I push you, everyday. I only do this so you can achieve whatever it is you want to do in life. There are some days that I do just lose my temper. Forgive me and accept my apologies. Caregivers are only human and they are under a great deal of stress everyday because they have to see their loved one suffer with so much pain. Sometimes we do snap, other times we have to be strong and push you. Either way, forgive them.
Have fun whenever you can, wherever you can, and anyway you know how to. Even if it’s just for one second of the day… play a joke on you caregiver, tell them a joke; anything that gives your caregiver the reality that one day it’s all going to be okay. Because it will.
Well there it is, seven ways you can thank your caregivers. We do not want money, gift cards or anything material. We do not need to be told “I don’t know what I would do without you” because you will be just fine. We want to know that through all the struggles, pain, and life altering events that you will rise to the top and go into fighting another day!
McKenzie, it has been a long journey and we have had our ups and downs. But through it all, I will always have your back.
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