A Letter To All the Chronic Pain Moms on Mother’s Day
To all the chronic pain Moms on Mother’s Day,
Is it just me or does the years seem to go faster and faster? Maybe it’s because we are not only trying to raise a family, but also because we are battling our own bodies..every day. I know this task seems never-ending and no matter what age your children are, you’re never truly done being a mom. Let’s face it, being a chronic pain mom is hard and probably the hardest job we will ever face in our life.
I know there are days this all seems so unfair, we can look at our other mom friends and see some of them making cute Pinterest projects with their kids, volunteering as the classroom mom, hosting fun slumber parties, taking their kids on vacations and even having a fancy career. While we may be just trying to tackle the task of getting dressed each day. We never chose this for our families, yet it all seems to keep slapping us in the face. Probably because everything is announced on social media and if we didn’t see on social media, we hear it from our kids. Kids can’t wait to tell us about all these amazing adventures their friends are having “Bobby’s mom does this, how come we can’t?” “But mom we already watched this movie, why can’t we go here…Suzie goes every weekend…this isn’t fair!” We know it’s not fair and yet we will still try to push ourselves every single day. Why? Because we would do anything to see our kids happy.
Trying to battle motherhood and a chronic pain condition is exhausting, but I’m here to tell you are doing the best you can and that is good enough. We really have to stop caring what other moms do, we are not in competition with them. What works for her family will not work for yours. Listen, you are one of the strongest people I know and maybe you don’t hear it as often as you should. Some people just don’t understand that, but I know you would do anything for your kids. Even dragging yourself to the point of pure exhaustion, but it is not worth it..please call in the back ups..I know some of you may be too stubborn to ask for help..but please do it anyway. Allow yourself to rest, it’s okay if the laundry waits yet another day or dinner is PB&J again and guess what? Your kids are doing just fine. It will all work out!
Sometimes us moms need encouragement from each other especially a mom battling a chronic illness. I want to tell you thank you for trying your hardest each day. I know every day may not go as planned or you may have had to break a promise or two to your kids but you know what? Your children do know you love them and they do love you too, regardless of this situation it comes down to this…love…and it is the most important! Kids are not always go to remember everything you do for them, but they will remember they are loved. As they become older and start having their own families, there will come a time that they reflect on your parenting and maybe even question how you did it with an chronic illness.
So this Mother’s Day relax, stop stressing if you’re doing everything right. Stop comparing yourself to the active healthy moms, and just love on your kiddos. Besides that’s the most important thing anyway. 😉
To all the chronic pain moms on Mother’s Day, I hope you have a great day!