Not Alone – Fighting Chronic Pain Conditions
Not Alone – Fighting Chronic Pain Conditions – Why is chronic pain so misunderstood? Why is it when someone is diagnosed with Cancer or some disease that is well-known their friends and family gather around and create this ring of support. Is it truly because people can’t understand hurting all the time? Or is it just as simple as they don’t care unless it’s happening to them? I’d like to think we still have compassion in this world and that they do care. Maybe it’s as simple as they don’t know what to do or what to say. Saying ” I hope you feel better” doesn’t really apply to us. Fighting chronic pain conditions and chronic illness is not easy and even harder feeling like you’re doing it alone.
I have run a support group for several years, I have heard countless stories of sufferers feeling like they are alone and even the ones that have a support network still stay they feel alone because they don’t think their friends and family understand what they are going through. When suffering with chronic pain or fighting chronic conditions you do feel isolated, you also mourn the loss of your old life. Sometimes you’re angry, sometimes you except it, and sometimes you just have to take it day by day or even hour by hour. It’s an ongoing roller coaster of emotions.
The main emotion we need to learn to recognize is depression and if you’re suffering with it. Know the signs and that it’s alright to ask for help and know it’s okay to have that “label”. Because any person whose life changes dramatically and is given a diagnosis of pain for the rest of their lives is going to have to learn to accept it, talk about it, and find support to deal with it. Especially when their support (or lack of) believes it’s all in their head and someone possibly couldn’t feel the pain they are in if they look okay.
Running a support group, I have heard many stories where the sufferers pain was so bad and none of their medicine was helping, so as a last resort they went to the ER desperately looking for help. Only to be looked at as a drug addict because in some hospitals they don’t educate the nurses or even the doctors about the many pain conditions there are. How horrible is that!!!! To go begging and pleading for someone to help you only to be treated like a druggie because they too can’t see your pain. Would they turn away someone who’s been stabbed, or their limb has been smashed? Because that’s what it feels like to the person suffering every day. Why is it chronic pain patients have been given this horrible label?!? Because we have to take pain medicine? Unfortunately, there are people who want to get high and abuse the medicine that we need and because of them we have some how been thrown into the same class and category as abusers. Having these types of issues, no wonder why depression and chronic pain can go hand in hand.
For anyone reading this that doesn’t have chronic pain, please know we never chose this! We didn’t want this! We want our lives back, the one that consisted of no pain. Understand that your health is the single most important thing because without it nothing is the same.We sit back and watch everyone moving on with their lives. Playing, running, going to parties, working. We just want to enjoy the little things again, because we didn’t know those little things were so big. There are many of us who can no longer work and I’ll tell you right now the grass is not greener on the other side!!! Many of us would rather be working. Many of us are facing financial issues and many of us are college educated. We had goals and dreams that were forced to be put aside and instead…we had to learn how fight for our health each day in ways many you may never understand.
In conclusion, I have added a link of depression signs to this article, please take a second and read it over. Learn the signs and know it’s okay to ask for help. It doesn’t mean your weak, maybe you’ve been strong for too long. Maybe the load has become too heavy to carry on your own. Please talk to a friend, find a support group, set up a meeting with a counselor that is familiar with chronic pain. Sometimes even the strongest warriors need a little help sometimes, we just have to ask.
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