Men..Yes We Are | Dealing with Chronic Pain and the Holidays
Fellas, with the holidays fast approaching I can help but think about all that needs to be done. Let start from the beginning here…Friends and family can bring a lot of stress upon us.
Especially with question after question..or the famous remarks like:
“When you get to feeling better, can you?“
“You will bounce back, don’t worry“
Or one of my favorites “I have the same problem and I just use an ice pack“
or even “I know someone who has the same problem and they are fine“.
They just don’t understand and never will..ya know. I get anxious more these days when the holidays are here..Why?? Because everyone has a job or duty in the house..from cooking, cleaning, putting up decorations, going grocery shopping, or even getting the parking situation down so every one, especially so Aunt Marge can get in the house with ease.
As for me…I do a lot of sitting, watching others do these jobs sometimes in fear of having a flare up while company is here.. or having to take meds just to get through dinner because of the pain. Also, I hate having to explain to my workaholic cousins and uncles why I can’t work. Even more, that I won’t be returning to work..EVER!!!
I give you this advice this holiday season..Take it slow, as slow as YOU need to go. Because when all the chores are done, the turkey has been eaten and even Aunt Marge has gone home finally… chances are you will still hurt. The friends and family will get to home pain free. They will not understand this year or next… until they have had to live with chronic pain day in and day out…they will never get it.
If you do feel the need to do more and find you can’t, ask for help from someone that can be empathetic with what you’re going through. Men..yes we are, but we also still need to ask for help once in a while.
I wish you all a happy holiday and take care of yourselves.
What have you found as a helpful reply to the extended relatives that don’t understand your condition? Please comment in the section below.