To All My Friends In Chronic Pain This Thanksgiving
To All My Friends In Chronic Pain This Thanksgiving,
What do the holidays mean to you? It’s a lot different than what it used to mean before the chronic pain, I’m certain. We dread it for some of the same reasons; Money, cleaning, cooking, that one annoying family member…. but add chronic pain to the mix and it just got 1000x’s worse. At least I thought so for a year or two.
See I tried to keep up with the way I had always done things. I made things a certain way on a certain day, always. Because that’s just the way it was done, Right? Well, last year, when my body shut down in the middle of Christmas brunch, I asked myself why? I could barely remember the day.
I began to think about the previous years. I had been pushing so hard to make the holiday season right for every one else, I had forgotten to take the time to remember any of it for myself. Pictures? Sure, a couple. Special? Of course, they loved it. But me? I was spent. Mind, body, soul, and spirit.
So, this last year has been about finding ways to nourish my body. Awaken my mind. Feed my Spirit and Soul. I have done a lot of reading and research on different religions and their histories. Listening to spiritualist and astrologist. Meditations and daily reflections.
Now the holidays are approaching and I am asking myself what will I do differently this year? What have I learned? I have seen it and heard it said in one setting or another. The definition of insanity is to do the same thing over and over expecting a different result. So, what will I do different this year? What did I miss the most over the last few years?
If I could get those years back, what would I want? I would want the little things; I’d want to hear my son giggle when I tickled his toes again when he was 2. I’d want to see my love smile at me again as I presented his favorite dish to the Thanksgiving table. I’d love to hear the laughter of my family and friends gathered together all in one place, one last time. I’d give almost anything to see my Grandmothers smile as we all gathered around her table for dinner when I was 9. I would want the little things…….
As we go into this holiday season, please remember to care for yourself as well as you do everyone else!! Make sure you have the energy to enjoy the little things. Those are the things that will stay with you and keep you throughout all time.
To all my friends in chronic pain this Thanksgiving, I hope you have a restful, enjoyable and Happy Thanksgiving!
What have you done differently since being diagnosed with a chronic pain condition over the holiday season? Please comment below.
‘To All My Friends In Chronic Pain This Thanksgiving’